Jon and Joy: 40 Days of Dating

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Back in 2013, Tim and Jessica’s 40 Days of Dating took the world by storm. This January, a good friend of mine and his friend decided to try the same experiment. Jonathan is an Art Director and Joy is a Creative Manager. Both live in LA. Friends, they decided to transition gradually into dating, trying it for 40 days and writing about their experiences. Their story is currently on day 7, and it’s my favorite post thus far because it’s honest, raw, and intensely relatable (for anyone who has ever struggled with commitment and not getting answers, or lack of commitment and communication issues, respectively).

Also? Since they’re both artistically inclined, their accompanying illustrations are wonderfully quirky.

First post

Current post 

You can also follow the story on Instagram and Twitter!

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Email Campaign Manager in San Francisco

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Vantage Media is hiring an email campaign manager! This position is actually very much in-line with what I’ve been doing and I momentarily considered applying before remembering it’s most likely the grad school life for me!

But the company seems great (a friend works for them) and they have the most adorable infographic about themselves. What more do you need?

Read more and apply 

Caffeinated Links: The Factors for a Happy Relationship, 55 TV Premieres and Finales, more

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The official Tumblr fandom flag. I recognize Sherlock and Doctor Who of course looming large, and I’d assume offhand that the triangle thing in the upper right is Supernatural? Either way, good stuff.

TVLine has 55 TV Premieres and Finales in February.

The ultimate guidelines to a happy relationship, according to science. Most of them are useless. The Atlantic

Incandenza over at Pajiba’s Cannonball Read gives a fantastic review, pondering fantasy as a genere, of Patrick Rothfuss’ Name of the Wind, one of the best fantasy books I’ve read in my all too-short lifetime.

Grantland as usual wrote a long and wonderful review, of which these parts are my favorite –

“It’s partly that Beyoncé is just better than Magna Carta, obviously. But it’s also partly about the fact that she’s 32 and he’s 44 and suddenly that gap seems salient. Motherhood as a human hasn’t made Beyoncé the pop star seem all that momlike, but Jay suddenly seems totally dadlike. Works for a corporation, wears a suit, makes a lot of dumb jokes, tries to seem hip by talking about Homeland. His verse doesn’t ruin “Drunk in Love,” but the other night at a party I heard a DJ start the song there, without playing the first three minutes, and I wanted to throw things at him. You’d have to be crazy to think that’s the best part of the song. When Jay walked onto Beyoncé’s stage last night he looked like he’d somehow lucked into taking her to the prom. I love how he walks her down the stairs from the top level of the stage, holding her hand in that almost courtly way, and how the minute they hit the second riser, right when he’s saying “I’m Ike,” she lets go of his hand and just keeps going. She does a little catwalk, lets Jay kind of point at her butt and make a Not bad, eh? face — and then the instant his verse is over, she’s back in control of the whole scene. Jay’s once again just lucky to be up there reflecting her swag, doing that adorable little back-to-back surfboard dance. I loved the surfboard-dance part so much I wish it was a physical place, so I could build a church there and renew my wedding vows inside it. It was A Moment. One the show still cut away from, so we could see how much Taylor Swift was enjoying it.”

“Buckingham and Reznor made perfect sense. They share a passion for innovative recording techniques and writing hot, angry songs about witchy women.”

on Taylor Swift –

“Can’t a girl thrash at a piano like she’s been ravished by the muse/dance in the audience like everybody’s watching/awkwardly configure and reconfigure her hands to a hip-hop beat without having her every awards-show move scrutinized like the Zapruder GIFs? Sure, she’s been lyrically careless with the hearts of the people who have been careless with hers, and yes, she seems painfully aware that the camera’s dead, unblinking gaze is always trained on her, and, uh-huh, she does that thing where she pretends that every new accolade is as unexpected as being named grand marshal of the Three-Legged Rainbow Unicorn Parade when she knows she’s got so many gold statuettes at home she had to build a museum on the back acres of her Dream Garden. ..

And Taylor Swift, god love her, has already entered the Tori Amos–serious artiste stage of her career, where the only special effect needed is integrity. Taylor, your songs about Jake Gyllenhaal are great, but you are 24 years old. Bring back the hobos.”

Worth the Wait

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Gorgeous. From the hand of lettering and graphic artist Matthew Tapia 

Design Love: All of the Lights

I have an obsession with lights. The warm muted glow of a lamp, the bright definitive statement of a ceiling light, the throwback vintage of a wall sconce, the magic-carpet-ride of Christmas lights or string lights, the slight oriental touch of a globe lamp or paper lantern, the bold designer statement of hanging lights, the luxuriousness of a chandelier.

This industrial chandelier from Uncovet is one of the most gorgeous of its kind I’ve seen – and I already think that all industrial lighting is stunning. 18 lights, stained ebony wood, black wire, and hardware in antique silver and antique gold.

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It’s really hard for me to handle the perfection of these minimalist wood hanging lights from Masahiro Minami design studio, appropriately titled ‘glory.’

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Kindness

Before you know what kindness really is
you must lose things,
feel the future dissolve in a moment
like salt in a weakened broth.
What you held in your hand,
what you counted and carefully saved,
all this must go so you know
how desolate the landscape can be
between the regions of kindness.
How you ride and ride
thinking the bus will never stop,
the passengers eating maize and chicken
will stare out the window forever.
Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness,
you must travel where the Indian in a white poncho
lies dead by the side of the road.
You must see how this could be you,
how he too was someone
who journeyed through the night with plans
and the simple breath that kept him alive.

Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.
You must wake up with sorrow.
You must speak to it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth.

Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore,
only kindness that ties your shoes
and sends you out into the day to mail letters and
purchase bread,
only kindness that raises its head
from the crowd of the world to say
it is I you have been looking for,
and then goes with you every where
like a shadow or a friend.

-Naomi Shihab Nye, “Kindness”

Skincare Routine For Dry Acne-Prone Skin

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A good basic skincare routine is cleanse, exfoliate, and moisturize. A lot of beauty bloggers swear that toning is also a necessary step, but others claim the opposite, and personally I haven’t found it to make a huge difference in my skin’s condition thus far.

1. CLEANSE. Currently I trade off between Fresh’s Soy Face Cleanser and Burt’s Bees Orange Essence Facial Cleanser. The former is a dream, the gentlest cleanser I’ve ever come across but also effective, removing makeup, dirt, and oil effortlessly. It’s a light, clear cream that feels wonderful going on my skin, and perhaps my favorite part is that I can get it even in my eyes and it won’t sting – it’s that gentle. Hands-down my favorite cleanser for removing makeup, and one of my preferred ones overall.

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STUNNED TO BE IN UGLINESS SO DEEP

And breathing. Like a bird choked on air. And sun come in still. Stunned.
And be about you being. And as still not seein’
No way in from out. Or reverse, or worse. Stunned
From thinking all the every part of day and night, and still not never
Nobody say you right. Or wrong. No they do say that.

Stunned. And not young anymore. Maybe never, not really
That. Old enough to breathe in trap door logic. In amazement. And stirred around
By what you know you don’t and don’t. As if they cd spell the matter better
Or trail the dog who need killing faster. Ok.

They is everywhere you is not, except where you swear you is going.
And them that look at you say that don’t exist in the 1st second and 3rd places

I wanted to be myself but knowing something beside that. And found out
That everything was locked in time and space and that you could find out anything
If you had the time and space and method and direction. Imagine the lost
Imaginings

Where you were thinking about dumb shit and didn’t know it was that.

Here’s a game
If you aint in sane
Look at the missing part of your image in the mirror
Now say to everybody who need to see this
There aint nothing missing

-Amira Baraka, Rattle

Best Hot Chocolate: Godiva Vs. Ghirardelli

godiva vs ghirardelliI love hot chocolate. People frequently give me hot chocolate as a Christmas present. I will go for miles just to find good hot chocolate at a cafe. Until lately, when I finally had money and my own kitchen, I didn’t have the motivation to make my own handmade stuff, but that’s coming up asap. Until then, however, I’ve been drinking powders, and over the course of time graduated from mainstream (Nestle) to more, ah, uppercrust – i.e. Godiva and Ghirardelli.

Godiva Hot Cocoa – milk chocolate flavor, they also have a dark chocolate – was a gift from a friend after I wrote her a letter of recommendation for journalism school (happy ending: she got in to her dream program and is currently residing in New York). Unfortunately…Godiva failed to deliver my own chocolate-happy ending. I have tried this multiple different ways in the vain hope that it will somehow deliver, and it just doesn’t. I have followed the instructions exactly – bring 1 cup of milk to a simmer and stir in 3 tablespoons of the power. I have also tried adding several extra tablespoons of the powder and making it with water instead. No use. No matter what I do to this stuff, it comes out bland instead of rich – there’s just little flavor, and what hot chocolate powder needs of course above all else is intense flavor. The texture is fine – nice and creamy – but as far as flavor this is passable at best. You may as well buy Nestle or any packet hot chocolate and it taste just as good if not better. I can’t recommend this at all. Huge disappointment.

Ghirardelli, though? Love. It’s a cold winter here in the Midwest, and I quite literally dream about this stuff on my way home from work. Similar to the Godiva, you heat milk until it simmers and then add the powder, but with the Ghirardelli you only need 2 spoonfuls for an average-sized mug, and it delivers two or three times the flavor. Incredibly rich and satisfying it just rolls onto the tongue with everything hot chocolate should be, and is better than 80% of the hot chocolate I’ve had at coffeeshops. Until I find a recipe for homemade hot chocolate that I adore, this will forever be my go-to, and will always be my fallback if I don’t have time to whip up homemade stuff. Go buy yourself a tin of this, my loves. Your tongue, and family (who will soon be as hooked as I am) will thank you. Ghirardelli Sweet Ground Chocolate, available for $5-$8 at many retailers, including most Walmarts.

Color: Gary Pepper Girl

Gary Pepper Girl, the blog of model/stylist/Renaissance-woman-extraordinaire Nicole Warne, is one of those high-end fashion blogs I only occasionally check into because her life makes me unhappy with mine and my life is actually full of good things. Having said that, I do love the colors and the lady is amazing.

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